How to Interpret a Sex Dream

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“If you want me, you can touch me fully”, he said, his gaze never wavering or breaking as he stared straight ahead…

Who was that mystery man in your dreams?  If you’re a woman, chances are the mysterious compelling man was your animus (guys have mysterious women called anima) and this dream was what I call a BIG dream.  Big dreams wake you up with but never fully let you go.  Big dreams have deep connection and feeling to them, even if that connection is not really all that clear to your waking mind.  When you have big dream, you KNOW with the deepest part of your self  this dream, THIS DREAM, was on an entirely different level than any other.

What To Do When You Have a Big Dream

To let a BIG dream go by without mining the message from its depths, is like finding buried treasure and walking away without opening the chest!  All you really need is a willingness to accept the gift and get your ‘inner Rumi’ on to unlock the meaning of these dreams.

The key is to allow your emotions and heart to come through you write your dream.  This will connect you with the dream’s energy and help you tap into your own emotions and creativity to find your treasure.

Below is an interpretation I did of one of my own BIG dreams a few nights ago using the prose technique of dream interpretation:

Becoming Fully Touched

I long to be at that place I dreamed about last nite. With the people that meet in the forest who are doing their dreams in the world.  In that place, the living water flows from the hillside above and passes by forming a rippling, rocky stream filling the forest with sound and spirit.  The secret place where dreamers gather together to share their dreams and souls.  There is music and dancing and sharing of stories and much, much laughter and joy.

I want that man, the one who was so authentic and confident in his life’s mission. His shirt was open and his chest moved with his laughter and speech as he passionately shared his own dream.  The one I was so drawn to that I was afraid to let him know because I felt I ‘shouldn’t’ want him, that my life required another path and different choices.  I want to feel again what it was like to not be able to help myself and touch him. To even feel embarrassed when he shouted out in surprise and laughter and curiosity at my actions.  And to know, even in my apology and polite protests, I wanted him so badly I would reach for him again.

I want to feel the soul connection again that caused me to touch him once more.  This time I was not met with surprise or laughter as my hand brushed his shoulders.  This time I was met with a knowing passion that matched my own. Rather than look at me, he held is gaze straight ahead, “If you want me, you can touch me fully rather than lightly.”  At that moment,  I wanted nothing more than to reach firmly and fully for him.

Let’s hit the pause button.  Notice that at this moment in the dream, a choice has come into play.  Would I follow my authenticity or deny my desire?

Rather than admit my true feelings, I slipped back into myself and my comfort zone, denying the strong emotions that flowed from Source as surely as the rocky stream.  Putting my fingertips together and pressing them to my chin contemplatively, I said in my most ‘got-myself-together-now-voice’, “Perhaps, I will.”   At this moment, as if my choice had written a new dream script, I was called to attend some duties elsewhere.  When I returned he was gone and although I searched, I never saw him again.

Living the Dream

I classify this as a BIG dream.  One  in which my soul was clearly showing me the desires, choices, and beliefs that are at play in my life.

The man is my animus or the manifestation of masculine energy.  The qualities in him that I am drawn to are qualities that I desire to bring more fully into my own experience:  authenticity, confidence in mission, laughter, joy, connection.

The Dream Choice is one of clearly wanting to join the animus however feeling that my current life path and choices prevent me from following my desires.  My choice is to remain in my comfort zone, put other duties ahead of what I really desire until another time.   However, when I return, the opportunity is gone and can not be found.

Dream Alchemy

Alchemy is about making the dream message meaningful.  Using the communication from the dream in your waking world to make your life better.

4 Questions to Bring the Dream Message into Daily Life

  1. Where in my life do I feel a resonance with the emotions of the dreams?  Like the Hot/Cold game you played as a kid, in what situations do I feel as if I’m getting the ‘warmest’ match for the emotions from this dream. These areas are a great place to start ‘living the dream’.
  2. In what ways can I choose to express my authenticity and true desires vs choosing to stay inside my comfort zone?  Where can I take on a new project, communicate more authentically, express myself, and lighten up a bit?
  3. Where am I putting off opportunities to act on authentic desires and preferences for things I ‘should’ do, believing the opportunity will always be there to come back to?
  4. What am I ‘touching lightly” in my life that I really desire to be “touching fully”?  Where am I holding myself back from what I really want?

Active Imagination Technique

Lastly, active imagination is a technique that I find very helpful for playing out different choices in a dream.  To use the technique:
  1. Relax in a meditative state and replay the dream in your mind.
  2. When you get to the point where you made your dream choice, this time, make a different choice.
  3. Allow your mind to daydream and experience the outcome of the new choice.  Don’t try to edit, just go with whatever pops up. (Be patient.  This can take a little practice)

By using this technique, you are able to play out alternate choices,  The emotions you feel with your new choices can be helpful to guide and inspire you to make lasting change and feel more confident to reach your goals.

Dream on!

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